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Last night
Nov. 17th, 2012 08:23 amThe saga continues!
( we'll leave the fun stuff uncut. )
I kind of bypass the immediate J theatrics (which means I missed the first part of things on all fronts, really) and go straight to new!B and ask if he really assaulted my nephew. No, not assault. Okay, fair enough. Threaten?
And he admits that he did. That he picked Widget up and threatened to break his neck (seriously repeated this to my face, calm as anything!) but then went on to explain he didn't mean it, only... he really would hurt Widget if he disrespected J again.
I'm in shock that a) his story has essentially stayed the same and b) that he doesn't see anything wrong with that. So, I try and I'm sure I failed at being semi reasonable but since I wasn't screaming or, I dunno, breaking his neck at this point I figure I'm as reasonable as someone in the situation could be. I ask if he sees how monumentally failtastic that was, given Widget's history.
Doesn't matter. New!B suffered worse far earlier in his own childhood and look how he got over it. Dude, you didn't get over it if you're fucking threatening small children! (Widget is still small.)
Eventually he smiles and says, "Listen, he's got ADHD, right?" "Right..." "Well, I had to get his attention. And I did."
You sir, are a psychopath.
Before I could stop myself, those words fell out of my mouth, and his grin gets bigger and he says, "No, I'm a Marine."
( No, sir, you are an embarassment to the Marines. )
Widget's piped in at various times to varying degrees of helpfulness (bless him but he's got a knack for shooting himself in the foot.) but if your attention is wandering it's time to bring this ship back on home.
"What I want to know is why."
J's kind of not tracking and everyone gets quiet when Widget speaks.
"Why'd you stand there when he held me against a wall and threaten to break my neck! and do nothing? Why didn't you do anything?"
I think for a second it hit J just what the fuck was going on. That this wasn't about whether she's a good mother or whether we want her to see Widget, that all of this was because someone hurt her kid, AGAIN, and again she chose that abusive sonofabitch's side over her own kid's. The same kid she's been trying to cajole into a hug or a visit. The same kid she's supposed to love... and protect.
She says she doesn't know, and there's a moment where she just looked broken. This moment is ruined by new!B fucking smirking in the background, but... yeah. There was a moment that perfectly illustrated what was going on.
( Time to wrap this up. )
Now I'm going to cuddle with my kitty and try to shake off the residual anger that is doing me no good at the moment. I'm hoping writing this down will make it stop echoing quite so much in my head for awhile. I really would like some sleep.
( we'll leave the fun stuff uncut. )
I kind of bypass the immediate J theatrics (which means I missed the first part of things on all fronts, really) and go straight to new!B and ask if he really assaulted my nephew. No, not assault. Okay, fair enough. Threaten?
And he admits that he did. That he picked Widget up and threatened to break his neck (seriously repeated this to my face, calm as anything!) but then went on to explain he didn't mean it, only... he really would hurt Widget if he disrespected J again.
I'm in shock that a) his story has essentially stayed the same and b) that he doesn't see anything wrong with that. So, I try and I'm sure I failed at being semi reasonable but since I wasn't screaming or, I dunno, breaking his neck at this point I figure I'm as reasonable as someone in the situation could be. I ask if he sees how monumentally failtastic that was, given Widget's history.
Doesn't matter. New!B suffered worse far earlier in his own childhood and look how he got over it. Dude, you didn't get over it if you're fucking threatening small children! (Widget is still small.)
Eventually he smiles and says, "Listen, he's got ADHD, right?" "Right..." "Well, I had to get his attention. And I did."
You sir, are a psychopath.
Before I could stop myself, those words fell out of my mouth, and his grin gets bigger and he says, "No, I'm a Marine."
( No, sir, you are an embarassment to the Marines. )
Widget's piped in at various times to varying degrees of helpfulness (bless him but he's got a knack for shooting himself in the foot.) but if your attention is wandering it's time to bring this ship back on home.
"What I want to know is why."
J's kind of not tracking and everyone gets quiet when Widget speaks.
"Why'd you stand there when he held me against a wall and threaten to break my neck! and do nothing? Why didn't you do anything?"
I think for a second it hit J just what the fuck was going on. That this wasn't about whether she's a good mother or whether we want her to see Widget, that all of this was because someone hurt her kid, AGAIN, and again she chose that abusive sonofabitch's side over her own kid's. The same kid she's been trying to cajole into a hug or a visit. The same kid she's supposed to love... and protect.
She says she doesn't know, and there's a moment where she just looked broken. This moment is ruined by new!B fucking smirking in the background, but... yeah. There was a moment that perfectly illustrated what was going on.
( Time to wrap this up. )
Now I'm going to cuddle with my kitty and try to shake off the residual anger that is doing me no good at the moment. I'm hoping writing this down will make it stop echoing quite so much in my head for awhile. I really would like some sleep.