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Jan. 18th, 2014 12:49 pmQuick check: I know that my love of cartoons, Hello Kitty, and my penchant for spending my disposable income on toys I don't seem like it, but I am an adult, right? I'm 32 friggin' years old and while people flatter me ever so much with the whole, "Whoa, no way! I had you pegged like, early twenties!" line I don't actually think anyone is lopping ten years off my age.
And even if they were, it wouldn't apply in this situation anyway.
I've been to visit Ari three times. Which isn't a great number, but it is what it is. And aside from the very first time, every time I've gone to see her and made it back to her actual room, someone else is there. And stays there. Even when they're falling down asleep and have said they're going off to the waiting room, they still won't leave.
"Talk to her!" Um, all my conversations do not require an audience, okay? I could understand if it was Cass, but they won't leave for her either, and she's the one (aside from possibly D) getting the biggest, best, and most prolonged reaction. Ari's eyes flutter for the rest of us, but they open and stay that way, trying to focus when Cass speaks.
But maybe that's the point, they want to be around when that happens! Um, no one else is copping to that being an actual thing, so no. I don't think that's it. It's just they won't give anyone else the same courtesy they seem to expect.
It's weird and another thing I can add to my petty thing, but seriously, man. I don't get a chance to visit often, so maybe I'd like two minutes to say, "Hey. Hey you. I know you're there because I'm pretty sure you just tried to roll your eyes at that tech. I know, right? Look. It's Saturday, you've been out of it for a week and your anniversary is in two days. I'm pretty sure your husband would really like his wife back, even if she's going to sleep for 23 hours a day because she's a cat. But he'd like you back-back and not this flitting in and out thing. You scared the crap out of me, and if we're being honest, you're still scaring me, so stop that. And now my two minutes are about up, so how about that weather, huh? It's really pretty outside and you're missing it. Three, two... one, hi _whoever_."
See? Not pulling any plugs or anything, people. I just want to be able to talk to my friend without an audience.
Sigh. Won't happen anytime soon. It's weird, because I don't know what to say when I'm there and people are just expecting me to be ~on~ and I don't really feel I can complain.
Just saying, if I wind up in a coma, you're allowed to print this out and say, "Look. She said I could have two minutes of alone time." Just don't watch Dora or Diego because ugh, no. Why?
Update: there was a thing with her feeding tube. New nurse didn't realize she was a gastric bypass patient and set up the feeding tube normally (I... guess? I'm really fuzzy on all the details) and naturally this didn't sit well with Ari, so there was a serious overflow issue. Her mom was really calm about it, but when Cass called and told her bio-father about it, he hit the roof.
(Is it wrong I want to shake this tiny little man and point out that being an overbearing ass NOW doesn't make up for being an incredibly shitty, absent father THEN? But no, I won't, because I'm not stupid.)
My box from AG arrived today, which is nice since it wasn't scheduled til Wednesday! :D Since I'm avoiding the hospital til tiny man takes his billions of kids home, I'll see what we can do picture wise this weekend.
And even if they were, it wouldn't apply in this situation anyway.
I've been to visit Ari three times. Which isn't a great number, but it is what it is. And aside from the very first time, every time I've gone to see her and made it back to her actual room, someone else is there. And stays there. Even when they're falling down asleep and have said they're going off to the waiting room, they still won't leave.
"Talk to her!" Um, all my conversations do not require an audience, okay? I could understand if it was Cass, but they won't leave for her either, and she's the one (aside from possibly D) getting the biggest, best, and most prolonged reaction. Ari's eyes flutter for the rest of us, but they open and stay that way, trying to focus when Cass speaks.
But maybe that's the point, they want to be around when that happens! Um, no one else is copping to that being an actual thing, so no. I don't think that's it. It's just they won't give anyone else the same courtesy they seem to expect.
It's weird and another thing I can add to my petty thing, but seriously, man. I don't get a chance to visit often, so maybe I'd like two minutes to say, "Hey. Hey you. I know you're there because I'm pretty sure you just tried to roll your eyes at that tech. I know, right? Look. It's Saturday, you've been out of it for a week and your anniversary is in two days. I'm pretty sure your husband would really like his wife back, even if she's going to sleep for 23 hours a day because she's a cat. But he'd like you back-back and not this flitting in and out thing. You scared the crap out of me, and if we're being honest, you're still scaring me, so stop that. And now my two minutes are about up, so how about that weather, huh? It's really pretty outside and you're missing it. Three, two... one, hi _whoever_."
See? Not pulling any plugs or anything, people. I just want to be able to talk to my friend without an audience.
Sigh. Won't happen anytime soon. It's weird, because I don't know what to say when I'm there and people are just expecting me to be ~on~ and I don't really feel I can complain.
Just saying, if I wind up in a coma, you're allowed to print this out and say, "Look. She said I could have two minutes of alone time." Just don't watch Dora or Diego because ugh, no. Why?
Update: there was a thing with her feeding tube. New nurse didn't realize she was a gastric bypass patient and set up the feeding tube normally (I... guess? I'm really fuzzy on all the details) and naturally this didn't sit well with Ari, so there was a serious overflow issue. Her mom was really calm about it, but when Cass called and told her bio-father about it, he hit the roof.
(Is it wrong I want to shake this tiny little man and point out that being an overbearing ass NOW doesn't make up for being an incredibly shitty, absent father THEN? But no, I won't, because I'm not stupid.)
My box from AG arrived today, which is nice since it wasn't scheduled til Wednesday! :D Since I'm avoiding the hospital til tiny man takes his billions of kids home, I'll see what we can do picture wise this weekend.
