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impySince I watched all the Psych episodes on Netflix (curse you, cliffhanger!), I've been counting down the days til How I Met Your Mother Season 7 was up for streaming. I... might have stayed up later than I expected on Saturday just to watch a couple of episodes. *cough*
The problem with HIMYM, other than the obvious fear the showrunners have for actually making good on the show title (guys, it's only a dealbreaker if the mother is horrible) is that after awhile I tend to start overly identifying with characters. I'm not really sure this is a group you should overly identify with apart from the wanting a group of friends almost that close.
Depending on one's life, one might end up identifying with Ted. The wanting the jumping through hoops to find someone to be over. Being a little irrationally jealous of the whole Lily/Marshall thing. Y'know. That kind of thing.
Somehow I ended up spoiled for the Christmas episode from Season 7. To avoid that fate for you, I present
It's the episode where Robin finds out she can't have kids. I've no idea if the show changes this later or not, nor does it really matter at the moment. It's something I've been thinking about since I'm getting to that age where your friends are either having kids or talking about it and you're kind of forced to examine your thoughts on the whole mess.
As long as I can remember, I've said I don't want kids. Well. Biologically speaking, anyway. That's just a lot of pain to go through and my pain threshold isn't that high to begin with. When I was with the significant ex, I did start to reconsider my position on the whole kids issue. And by start to reconsider, I mean I seriously thought about it. One shouldn't base all their life choices based on what their eight year old self has decided without a review at some point. But it never came up again and then things ended and it didn't matter much since I haven't even found someone I could stop and pretend for a second that I'd like to be with, let alone like enough to imagine kids of any sort in the picture.
Cass is sort of panicking over the fact that Matt seems to have finally swung back around on the issue of children but she's worried she might not be capable of having kids and thus a freakout was born instead.
Ari has taken to mentioning having kids more in the last six months or so than she ever has in the entire time I've known her, and our friendship is almost old enough to drink legally.
Then there was the countdown of how many of my cousins have kids and then the likelihood of my super annoying cousin spawning sometime soon. (I'm betting the odds are pretty high.)
So then I wonder if I'd be thinking as much about this, or in a similar way, if I weren't alone. If I were dating someone, would it still be a thing? Or is this just a case of standing on the outside, looking in and wondering what I'm missing out on.
Which, when you consider the amount of time and money I get to put into the raising of the Widget, is kind of funny. The funniest part is how little say I have in anything. It's like half the fun, a good chunk of the responsibility, and none of the voice.
I suppose that's just as well as the amount of headache inducing insanity he provokes sometimes is definitely conducive to sticking to the no kids thing. On the other hand, I think once you peek through that door you always wonder what if.
I guess I'm just keeping my half of the deal with Cass. I told her that since Matt's on board, I'll do the worrying for her so she can be blissfully optimistic. I hope she's upholding her end of the deal.
And that had so very little to do with the episode but hey. Better safe than sorry.
The problem with HIMYM, other than the obvious fear the showrunners have for actually making good on the show title (guys, it's only a dealbreaker if the mother is horrible) is that after awhile I tend to start overly identifying with characters. I'm not really sure this is a group you should overly identify with apart from the wanting a group of friends almost that close.
Depending on one's life, one might end up identifying with Ted. The wanting the jumping through hoops to find someone to be over. Being a little irrationally jealous of the whole Lily/Marshall thing. Y'know. That kind of thing.
Somehow I ended up spoiled for the Christmas episode from Season 7. To avoid that fate for you, I present
It's the episode where Robin finds out she can't have kids. I've no idea if the show changes this later or not, nor does it really matter at the moment. It's something I've been thinking about since I'm getting to that age where your friends are either having kids or talking about it and you're kind of forced to examine your thoughts on the whole mess.
As long as I can remember, I've said I don't want kids. Well. Biologically speaking, anyway. That's just a lot of pain to go through and my pain threshold isn't that high to begin with. When I was with the significant ex, I did start to reconsider my position on the whole kids issue. And by start to reconsider, I mean I seriously thought about it. One shouldn't base all their life choices based on what their eight year old self has decided without a review at some point. But it never came up again and then things ended and it didn't matter much since I haven't even found someone I could stop and pretend for a second that I'd like to be with, let alone like enough to imagine kids of any sort in the picture.
Cass is sort of panicking over the fact that Matt seems to have finally swung back around on the issue of children but she's worried she might not be capable of having kids and thus a freakout was born instead.
Ari has taken to mentioning having kids more in the last six months or so than she ever has in the entire time I've known her, and our friendship is almost old enough to drink legally.
Then there was the countdown of how many of my cousins have kids and then the likelihood of my super annoying cousin spawning sometime soon. (I'm betting the odds are pretty high.)
So then I wonder if I'd be thinking as much about this, or in a similar way, if I weren't alone. If I were dating someone, would it still be a thing? Or is this just a case of standing on the outside, looking in and wondering what I'm missing out on.
Which, when you consider the amount of time and money I get to put into the raising of the Widget, is kind of funny. The funniest part is how little say I have in anything. It's like half the fun, a good chunk of the responsibility, and none of the voice.
I suppose that's just as well as the amount of headache inducing insanity he provokes sometimes is definitely conducive to sticking to the no kids thing. On the other hand, I think once you peek through that door you always wonder what if.
I guess I'm just keeping my half of the deal with Cass. I told her that since Matt's on board, I'll do the worrying for her so she can be blissfully optimistic. I hope she's upholding her end of the deal.
And that had so very little to do with the episode but hey. Better safe than sorry.
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Date: 2012-12-04 02:58 am (UTC)If you're like me (and you clearly are given our extremely similar tastes in entertainment!) then yes, you probably would be thinking about this if you weren't alone.
I've been married for five years, and with my husband for roughly 11 years (roughly because we did have a 6 month breakup at one point) and I think about having kids all the time. Most of my friends and relatives have them already and I feel very out of the loop. I have friends with babies on the way who I would never have pegged for parents. But me, I've always wanted to be a mommy and my husband wants kids too. So to see these party-hard, sex-drugs-and-rock'n'roll friends having kids while we aren't is both bizarre and depressing.
That's probably not real helpful for you. Sorry about that. :(
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Date: 2012-12-04 11:09 am (UTC)Now I whistle for the longevity of the relationship because it's impressive!
But then I ask, and feel free to clobber me, kids: are you waiting, has it just not happened, or...? Because the baby onslaught is a weird distribution in my circles. (And reaching back, my parents waited quite a few years between getting married and tada, little bundle of me so I'm always more surprised at the 'honeymoon' babies.)
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Date: 2012-12-04 04:03 pm (UTC)We waited originally because we've always had money troubles. We figure that until we can comfortably support ourselves we have no business bringing a baby into the world that we might end up unable to provide a good life for. And then the financial situation just didn't improve (it got worse actually). Now that I'm nearly finished with college though and looking for a full time job, we hope to start trying sometime next year. We figure that we may always have some money issues and so right now we just want to make sure that both of us have jobs and health insurance.
Actually though, I was pregnant once. I miscarried. I confess that deep down I'm terrified that there's something wrong with me, and that that was my only shot. I never want to go through that experience again. :(