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If I should ask any time soon about whether or not to skip a Cass party, you should give me full permission to do so. I agreed to yesterday's because it was her grandmother's birthday and she invited me so I thought of course I'll go.
And then it moved from down the street from me to Cass's house, which makes a certain amount of sense. But then things got... special.
I was surprised by the other people who made her grandmother's cut. One of which I know Ari used to dislike very, very much even though I think the opinion was formed and then the person in question changed and mellowed out quite a bit. But I'm biased because I like her so... enh, whatcha gonna do. The other is a guy Cass met through D and I know he hangs out a lot with Cass and Matt, but I don't know if he's still friends with D or not. Not that they had a falling out, but sometimes friendships seem to transfer, you know?
Anyway. I'm not super fond of him, but it'd been awhile since I saw him and I didn't really remember WHY I didn't like him. We'll call him S because initials are easy. Yeah, about ten minutes in I remembered why I don't much care for him.
So, the party had three parts. Three and a half? Three, with one part split into half? I'm not sure.
Liz came to pick me up and she bought me coffee (yum!) and away we went. I like Liz and agree she's pretty awesome, though I do understand why Ari didn't like her. (Liz is not their mother's biggest fan, or wasn't, and Ari didn't like that.) We get to Cass's house and S is there, along with Cass and Matt. They're setting up and S is knocking back drinks like tomorrow's never gonna come, but I also get the feeling it's more like he's sampling everything vaguely alcoholic in the fridge, so I dunno. He's also complaining about having to work tomorrow. And then he brings up The Incident.
I believe I mentioned that Cass's anniversary party turned into a Moonlight Madness party where there were some hookups (hence the name)? Well, S hooked up with crazy Lisa who lives three doors down. Turns out he should have listened to everyone who told him "don't put your dick in crazy." This phrase was repeated so often that I'd say if you took a shot each time it was said you'd need a new liver, but I'm pretty sure S did take a shot for each time it was said and to my knowledge he's not awaiting a transplant just yet. :P
So that was discussed in graphic detail and I'm a little fuzzy on things. Is this normal to be discussing everything so graphically? I get mentioning that it happened, possibly even if it was worth it, but a blow-by-blow? Really? I don't need to know that you couldn't get it up due to excessive drinking (allegedly) or that she fell asleep on you or really everything you tried or she wouldn't try. But I'm never present at these things so I don't know whether it's normal for them, or normal for everyone else on Earth and my social anxiety has just sheltered me a little more than I counted on or what.
Then the family arrives and part one of the party kicks off. It was very cold yesterday, and rainy, so I spent part of the party inside not freezing. I'm not an oyster fan and like seafood but I've got a 50/50 chance of paying for it later, so I decided to forgo the crabs since I didn't know when I'd be going home.
After awhile, the smell of the deep fryer got to me, so I went outside to let my eyes clear out. I was having fun and thinking that I should allow myself out more often than I normally do. Went back in when everyone else did and shortly after that, the family left, offering to give me a ride.
I should have accepted, but I figured I was having fun and I could handle S's oversharing, plus it was like, 4:30.
Yeah. Really should have gone with them.
Party part 2 turns into a drinking game on some Wii fishing game. Which involved even more of S's oversharing and just, dude. WTF. Either put up or shut up. If you wanna give Lisa another go, knowing that she's only interested in your wallet, fine. There's the door. If you don't, then stop asking people to talk you out of it. By the end of the night I wanted someone to just roll their eyes and shove him out the door, telling him to do what he had to do, whatever that might've been. It didn't help that he kept talking over everyone, even when they were answering his questions, or that in general he was just an obnoxious ass. Why was he invited when he didn't even know the birthday girl's name? Seriously, he kept calling her the wrong name.
Yeah. Then I remembered, when they were talking frogmore stew, that the last time I'd hung out with him, Ari, D, and Cass was during a trip to Myrtle Beach where he basically cost everyone involved somewhere between $50 and $100 bucks because he changed his mind about the hotel room and was a complete dick to everyone in his quest to get laid. A quest, I might add, that he failed spectacularly at.
Oh, and the absolute highlight was during part three, when Matt invited his coworkers to help finish the oysters off and told them to bring beer and no one brought "enough" or what they did sucked, and I'm thinking, your coworkers are 21. To them, maybe this is the good stuff or all they have? WTF do I know or care, though, so I didn't say anything. Nope, one of the younger ones (one of the ones who wasn't being exceptionally drunk already) was talking about Wii games w/Cass and S is saying, very loudly, that he shoulda been friends with them way back when because S and company were getting 14 year olds drunk and shit to teach them the proper respect for it.
The actual fuck, what? You're 40, telling some kid who is 21 that he should've known you years ago so he could've gotten you good and drunk years ago? That's... I... really? Good fucking God, I felt like the oldest person there sometimes.
Factor into this Matt wasn't supposed to be drinking but S kept giving him more and more and the drug use and really, I'm good. I don't know if this is how their parties normally go or if I just got lucky or what, but nope. If I see his name on the guest list again, I'll just avoid it entirely or bow out early.
Basically once the calls went in for part three to kick off, the party went straight to hell for me with little to no redeeming qualities. The family part wasn't bad, and the parts without the work friends had good moments and "is it just me or..." moments.
Not worth the headache that ensued, really.
And then it moved from down the street from me to Cass's house, which makes a certain amount of sense. But then things got... special.
I was surprised by the other people who made her grandmother's cut. One of which I know Ari used to dislike very, very much even though I think the opinion was formed and then the person in question changed and mellowed out quite a bit. But I'm biased because I like her so... enh, whatcha gonna do. The other is a guy Cass met through D and I know he hangs out a lot with Cass and Matt, but I don't know if he's still friends with D or not. Not that they had a falling out, but sometimes friendships seem to transfer, you know?
Anyway. I'm not super fond of him, but it'd been awhile since I saw him and I didn't really remember WHY I didn't like him. We'll call him S because initials are easy. Yeah, about ten minutes in I remembered why I don't much care for him.
So, the party had three parts. Three and a half? Three, with one part split into half? I'm not sure.
Liz came to pick me up and she bought me coffee (yum!) and away we went. I like Liz and agree she's pretty awesome, though I do understand why Ari didn't like her. (Liz is not their mother's biggest fan, or wasn't, and Ari didn't like that.) We get to Cass's house and S is there, along with Cass and Matt. They're setting up and S is knocking back drinks like tomorrow's never gonna come, but I also get the feeling it's more like he's sampling everything vaguely alcoholic in the fridge, so I dunno. He's also complaining about having to work tomorrow. And then he brings up The Incident.
I believe I mentioned that Cass's anniversary party turned into a Moonlight Madness party where there were some hookups (hence the name)? Well, S hooked up with crazy Lisa who lives three doors down. Turns out he should have listened to everyone who told him "don't put your dick in crazy." This phrase was repeated so often that I'd say if you took a shot each time it was said you'd need a new liver, but I'm pretty sure S did take a shot for each time it was said and to my knowledge he's not awaiting a transplant just yet. :P
So that was discussed in graphic detail and I'm a little fuzzy on things. Is this normal to be discussing everything so graphically? I get mentioning that it happened, possibly even if it was worth it, but a blow-by-blow? Really? I don't need to know that you couldn't get it up due to excessive drinking (allegedly) or that she fell asleep on you or really everything you tried or she wouldn't try. But I'm never present at these things so I don't know whether it's normal for them, or normal for everyone else on Earth and my social anxiety has just sheltered me a little more than I counted on or what.
Then the family arrives and part one of the party kicks off. It was very cold yesterday, and rainy, so I spent part of the party inside not freezing. I'm not an oyster fan and like seafood but I've got a 50/50 chance of paying for it later, so I decided to forgo the crabs since I didn't know when I'd be going home.
After awhile, the smell of the deep fryer got to me, so I went outside to let my eyes clear out. I was having fun and thinking that I should allow myself out more often than I normally do. Went back in when everyone else did and shortly after that, the family left, offering to give me a ride.
I should have accepted, but I figured I was having fun and I could handle S's oversharing, plus it was like, 4:30.
Yeah. Really should have gone with them.
Party part 2 turns into a drinking game on some Wii fishing game. Which involved even more of S's oversharing and just, dude. WTF. Either put up or shut up. If you wanna give Lisa another go, knowing that she's only interested in your wallet, fine. There's the door. If you don't, then stop asking people to talk you out of it. By the end of the night I wanted someone to just roll their eyes and shove him out the door, telling him to do what he had to do, whatever that might've been. It didn't help that he kept talking over everyone, even when they were answering his questions, or that in general he was just an obnoxious ass. Why was he invited when he didn't even know the birthday girl's name? Seriously, he kept calling her the wrong name.
Yeah. Then I remembered, when they were talking frogmore stew, that the last time I'd hung out with him, Ari, D, and Cass was during a trip to Myrtle Beach where he basically cost everyone involved somewhere between $50 and $100 bucks because he changed his mind about the hotel room and was a complete dick to everyone in his quest to get laid. A quest, I might add, that he failed spectacularly at.
Oh, and the absolute highlight was during part three, when Matt invited his coworkers to help finish the oysters off and told them to bring beer and no one brought "enough" or what they did sucked, and I'm thinking, your coworkers are 21. To them, maybe this is the good stuff or all they have? WTF do I know or care, though, so I didn't say anything. Nope, one of the younger ones (one of the ones who wasn't being exceptionally drunk already) was talking about Wii games w/Cass and S is saying, very loudly, that he shoulda been friends with them way back when because S and company were getting 14 year olds drunk and shit to teach them the proper respect for it.
The actual fuck, what? You're 40, telling some kid who is 21 that he should've known you years ago so he could've gotten you good and drunk years ago? That's... I... really? Good fucking God, I felt like the oldest person there sometimes.
Factor into this Matt wasn't supposed to be drinking but S kept giving him more and more and the drug use and really, I'm good. I don't know if this is how their parties normally go or if I just got lucky or what, but nope. If I see his name on the guest list again, I'll just avoid it entirely or bow out early.
Basically once the calls went in for part three to kick off, the party went straight to hell for me with little to no redeeming qualities. The family part wasn't bad, and the parts without the work friends had good moments and "is it just me or..." moments.
Not worth the headache that ensued, really.
