I do not enjoy February. Or March, really.
Mar. 2nd, 2025 04:30 pmGonna try to keep this from getting too long but you know how easily I get distracted down a tangent, so we'll see how it goes.
Friday morning as I was getting ready to go up to bed, the phone started ringing like crazy. Fridays are really popular with spam calls, so I didn't bother getting up to grab the house phone. After *looks it up* 5 calls between 11:22 and 11:26, I picked up the next one and it was Widget sobbing that he broke his arm and was on the way to the nearest hospital. I get Mom up and after asking if his parents were en route (no and no), tell him I'm going to go get dressed and we'll be there ASAP.
Mom calls my brother while I'm getting dressed and as I'm hitting the bathroom, she hollers up that I can pause my getting ready since he's actually going to the hospital. I ask if Widget knows this and she calls Widget and pretty much immediately walks back the pause. Which is what I thought. We get to the hospital right around noon and walk past Widget's boss (someone I went to elementary school with and the boy's longtime BFF's older brother, whose birthday also happened to be Friday) without being fully sure it was him because the last time I saw him was at a funeral a year ago, and prior to that probably was when we were under 10.
Mom and I head back to the first room Widget's in and he's getting X-rays done before they pretty much shuffle him out to the room across the hall to set his elbow/wrist. Turns out he didn't break his arm, but did dislocate his elbow and broke his wrist.
Mums and I head back out to the waiting room/lobby and wait for my brother and talk to J. Despite my brother saying he was 10 minutes away when Mums and I arrived, he didn't show up til we'd already been there 40 minutes.
We eventually get called back again shortly after my brother shows up, and here's where I'll cut corners on things.
They set his elbow and anytime they mention his injuries after the first time we got walked back, they exclusively focus on the elbow. At some point before brother leaves, I make it known to Mums and brother that one of us needs to circle back to the wrist because it feels weird that no one's mentioned it since. This is important because it's about where shit falls apart.
Somewhere around 1-ish, maybe 1:30, brother leaves to go back to work so he'll avoid running into Widget's mom who said she was coming by. Right before brother leaves, Widget's mom says she'll see him after he gets discharged. This isn't entirely a bitch move because at this point they've made it seem like we're just waiting on discharge papers to be issued. Only before he leaves, one of the doctors comes in and brother asks about the wrist, so when the last round of X-rays are done, they focus on the wrist, too.
Which is when we go from "when he follows up with the orthopedist on Monday, it's not looking like surgery" to surgery seems pretty fucking likely. I really hope not, btw, but that's kinda obvious. Still, there's not much else they can do for the wrist since they did the splint and they have to wait for the swelling to go down. Cool, cool. It's also about this time they do acknowledge the broken wrist. The last round of X-rays take FOREVER and a day to the point that I just stupidly assume one of the 900 people walking in and out is whoever is required to read said Xrays to see if he's really good to go. This assumption is helped along by the fact that S, the nurse in charge of his care, comes in to give us the "yay, you get to go home" talk very soon thereafter. I will say he did ask if the orthopedist on call had talked to us and here's where I let you know I'm not face blind but it takes me forever to ID someone, and this obviously gets worse in high stress situations.
Obviously your Spidey senses should be tingling.
Widget gets discharged and we head to the nearest Walgreens to drop off his RX. In the car, I call to try and set up that Monday appointment but get a bit of runaround and they're supposed to call me back that afternoon to set it up after the doc gets out of surgery.
Widget gets semi sick to his stomach just as Mom comes back to say we can't get the pills til after 5. We head home and I swear to god, about two minutes into that part of the car ride, Widget asks why "healthcare" is calling him. I tell him to answer, figuring it's probably the office ignoring my plea to have them call my phone since he's still super groggy.
NOPE.
ER orthopedist is all, "looked at your last round of Xrays, I don't think your elbow is set properly and if we don't fix it today, it'll start to heal wrong and fuck up your nerves." Paraphrasing here, but you get the idea. Widget starts to whine, channeling all of us really, but the doc says he'll meet Widget outside, bring him back immediately, and he won't have to wait again. ALL THREE OF US HEAR THIS.
Obviously this is not what happened. Mom drops Widget and me off while she parks and I walk him in, he explains the situation and the ladies remember him from his wobbly arm before. And they are super apologetic when it because painfully clear that the ER, which has gotten much busier in the half an hour since we left, is gonna make him wait.
Again.
LIIIIIIIIIIIIIIEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS.
It takes more than an hour and a half for them to call him back to do anything more than triage which was basically a waste of time since both sides were at "dunno" on everything. Either the hospital measured his height wrong (maybe?), took his word for it (?), or I'm taller than I thought since he's down at 5'9 and I'm taller than he is. To be fair, I have always maintained I'm 5'9 and a half, but still.
The second trip to the ER was infuriating on so many levels. About the time we left the triage room, I went outside to call work and say I couldn't make it in because at this point even if they did see him, it would be at least another hour and I STILL hadn't had any sleep and I'd worked the night before. I'm fairly certain work had to close that night anyway, because A's littlest has covid.
Anyway, while I'm on the phone with work, Widget sends a text saying he's in room __ so I go back in, get walked back to that room and we begin the wait from hell. I swear, it felt like we were repeatedly being forgotten.
Much like my promise to try and keep this short. Oops.
So. S, the nurse, apologizes and is very nice and does promise to do his best to right the ship, as it were. We get a visit from the social worker who tells Widget that hey, hurt at work, they should be paying for everything, just so you know.
The doc who called Widget back is extra infuriating because he left by the time Widget came back, so that makes his whole promise to meet Widget and bring him back complete and utter BS. FUN.
Widget pukes, I think of Stacey McGill to avoid thinking of puke directly. Mom goes to get Widget's meds from the Walgreens because it is NOT looking like we'll be out before they close. I stay behind and Widget and I half watch bits of Captain America and I read, or try to.
Anyway, turns out that Widget inherited his father's tolerance for pain meds, which they get from Mom. Yay, ginger genes? The working theory, and I believe it, is that the first time they set his elbow, they didn't give him enough of whatever med to get him down, so he was still resisting enough so that instead of nailing it 100%, it was more of a 90% or something. Close, really close, but not quite.
Considering they gave him 330 of... whatever med and had to bring in 2 extra people to help set his arm (yes, I did sit and watch and yes, I did kind of regret the choice a few times, but I didn't want him to be alone and there's no blood so... suck it up, buttercup) in addition to the 4 or 5 people they had already. It was... a lot.
The doc they want him to follow up with looks at his xrays and says they look perfect and then I swear it takes another 40 minutes to get discharged, but I will say it wasn't as bad as I feared. I kind of worried that shift change and S going home would get us lost in the shuffle, but no. We leave a little before 8pm and head home. At this point traffic is WAY better, yay, and I'm starting that weird slide between awake and awake too long. We get home, get Widget situated down here, get him a milkshake for food, dose him, propped up, and then someone decides I should definitely be making my own dinner after being awake for more than 24 hours at this point.
This is my own little journal area, so I can whine about that and whine that it fucking sucked that this happened on a day when I was committed to not spending money because yeah, the economic blackout wasn't likely to really be a big thing but I was doing my part so no easy fast food on the way home. (I'll be honest, if we passed a Taco Bell on the way home, I might've caved. But since my end of the city closes things without opening anything useful, I was safe.)
Btw, Widget was trying to sleep downstairs because his room gets warm and he'd taken his window AC out before he went to work and would obviously not be able to put it back in. At some point overnight he did go up to his room, but I didn't know that til 7am or whenever I tried to go check on the boys only to realize he was in there. Oops.
He's doing better, or was anyway. Got him a little sink bath and washed his hair today. Pissed as shit though that the ER's like "call first thing Saturday morning to set up that appointment; don't forget!" and we do and they're not open. Because it's a weekend. The recording says to use the MyChart thing, so we try, but NOPE. It says to call the office. *headdesk*
So pray tomorrow morning's call goes better.
Tomorrow, btw, is the anniversary of Dad's death.
yay.
Friday morning as I was getting ready to go up to bed, the phone started ringing like crazy. Fridays are really popular with spam calls, so I didn't bother getting up to grab the house phone. After *looks it up* 5 calls between 11:22 and 11:26, I picked up the next one and it was Widget sobbing that he broke his arm and was on the way to the nearest hospital. I get Mom up and after asking if his parents were en route (no and no), tell him I'm going to go get dressed and we'll be there ASAP.
Mom calls my brother while I'm getting dressed and as I'm hitting the bathroom, she hollers up that I can pause my getting ready since he's actually going to the hospital. I ask if Widget knows this and she calls Widget and pretty much immediately walks back the pause. Which is what I thought. We get to the hospital right around noon and walk past Widget's boss (someone I went to elementary school with and the boy's longtime BFF's older brother, whose birthday also happened to be Friday) without being fully sure it was him because the last time I saw him was at a funeral a year ago, and prior to that probably was when we were under 10.
Mom and I head back to the first room Widget's in and he's getting X-rays done before they pretty much shuffle him out to the room across the hall to set his elbow/wrist. Turns out he didn't break his arm, but did dislocate his elbow and broke his wrist.
Mums and I head back out to the waiting room/lobby and wait for my brother and talk to J. Despite my brother saying he was 10 minutes away when Mums and I arrived, he didn't show up til we'd already been there 40 minutes.
We eventually get called back again shortly after my brother shows up, and here's where I'll cut corners on things.
They set his elbow and anytime they mention his injuries after the first time we got walked back, they exclusively focus on the elbow. At some point before brother leaves, I make it known to Mums and brother that one of us needs to circle back to the wrist because it feels weird that no one's mentioned it since. This is important because it's about where shit falls apart.
Somewhere around 1-ish, maybe 1:30, brother leaves to go back to work so he'll avoid running into Widget's mom who said she was coming by. Right before brother leaves, Widget's mom says she'll see him after he gets discharged. This isn't entirely a bitch move because at this point they've made it seem like we're just waiting on discharge papers to be issued. Only before he leaves, one of the doctors comes in and brother asks about the wrist, so when the last round of X-rays are done, they focus on the wrist, too.
Which is when we go from "when he follows up with the orthopedist on Monday, it's not looking like surgery" to surgery seems pretty fucking likely. I really hope not, btw, but that's kinda obvious. Still, there's not much else they can do for the wrist since they did the splint and they have to wait for the swelling to go down. Cool, cool. It's also about this time they do acknowledge the broken wrist. The last round of X-rays take FOREVER and a day to the point that I just stupidly assume one of the 900 people walking in and out is whoever is required to read said Xrays to see if he's really good to go. This assumption is helped along by the fact that S, the nurse in charge of his care, comes in to give us the "yay, you get to go home" talk very soon thereafter. I will say he did ask if the orthopedist on call had talked to us and here's where I let you know I'm not face blind but it takes me forever to ID someone, and this obviously gets worse in high stress situations.
Obviously your Spidey senses should be tingling.
Widget gets discharged and we head to the nearest Walgreens to drop off his RX. In the car, I call to try and set up that Monday appointment but get a bit of runaround and they're supposed to call me back that afternoon to set it up after the doc gets out of surgery.
Widget gets semi sick to his stomach just as Mom comes back to say we can't get the pills til after 5. We head home and I swear to god, about two minutes into that part of the car ride, Widget asks why "healthcare" is calling him. I tell him to answer, figuring it's probably the office ignoring my plea to have them call my phone since he's still super groggy.
NOPE.
ER orthopedist is all, "looked at your last round of Xrays, I don't think your elbow is set properly and if we don't fix it today, it'll start to heal wrong and fuck up your nerves." Paraphrasing here, but you get the idea. Widget starts to whine, channeling all of us really, but the doc says he'll meet Widget outside, bring him back immediately, and he won't have to wait again. ALL THREE OF US HEAR THIS.
Obviously this is not what happened. Mom drops Widget and me off while she parks and I walk him in, he explains the situation and the ladies remember him from his wobbly arm before. And they are super apologetic when it because painfully clear that the ER, which has gotten much busier in the half an hour since we left, is gonna make him wait.
Again.
LIIIIIIIIIIIIIIEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS.
It takes more than an hour and a half for them to call him back to do anything more than triage which was basically a waste of time since both sides were at "dunno" on everything. Either the hospital measured his height wrong (maybe?), took his word for it (?), or I'm taller than I thought since he's down at 5'9 and I'm taller than he is. To be fair, I have always maintained I'm 5'9 and a half, but still.
The second trip to the ER was infuriating on so many levels. About the time we left the triage room, I went outside to call work and say I couldn't make it in because at this point even if they did see him, it would be at least another hour and I STILL hadn't had any sleep and I'd worked the night before. I'm fairly certain work had to close that night anyway, because A's littlest has covid.
Anyway, while I'm on the phone with work, Widget sends a text saying he's in room __ so I go back in, get walked back to that room and we begin the wait from hell. I swear, it felt like we were repeatedly being forgotten.
Much like my promise to try and keep this short. Oops.
So. S, the nurse, apologizes and is very nice and does promise to do his best to right the ship, as it were. We get a visit from the social worker who tells Widget that hey, hurt at work, they should be paying for everything, just so you know.
The doc who called Widget back is extra infuriating because he left by the time Widget came back, so that makes his whole promise to meet Widget and bring him back complete and utter BS. FUN.
Widget pukes, I think of Stacey McGill to avoid thinking of puke directly. Mom goes to get Widget's meds from the Walgreens because it is NOT looking like we'll be out before they close. I stay behind and Widget and I half watch bits of Captain America and I read, or try to.
Anyway, turns out that Widget inherited his father's tolerance for pain meds, which they get from Mom. Yay, ginger genes? The working theory, and I believe it, is that the first time they set his elbow, they didn't give him enough of whatever med to get him down, so he was still resisting enough so that instead of nailing it 100%, it was more of a 90% or something. Close, really close, but not quite.
Considering they gave him 330 of... whatever med and had to bring in 2 extra people to help set his arm (yes, I did sit and watch and yes, I did kind of regret the choice a few times, but I didn't want him to be alone and there's no blood so... suck it up, buttercup) in addition to the 4 or 5 people they had already. It was... a lot.
The doc they want him to follow up with looks at his xrays and says they look perfect and then I swear it takes another 40 minutes to get discharged, but I will say it wasn't as bad as I feared. I kind of worried that shift change and S going home would get us lost in the shuffle, but no. We leave a little before 8pm and head home. At this point traffic is WAY better, yay, and I'm starting that weird slide between awake and awake too long. We get home, get Widget situated down here, get him a milkshake for food, dose him, propped up, and then someone decides I should definitely be making my own dinner after being awake for more than 24 hours at this point.
This is my own little journal area, so I can whine about that and whine that it fucking sucked that this happened on a day when I was committed to not spending money because yeah, the economic blackout wasn't likely to really be a big thing but I was doing my part so no easy fast food on the way home. (I'll be honest, if we passed a Taco Bell on the way home, I might've caved. But since my end of the city closes things without opening anything useful, I was safe.)
Btw, Widget was trying to sleep downstairs because his room gets warm and he'd taken his window AC out before he went to work and would obviously not be able to put it back in. At some point overnight he did go up to his room, but I didn't know that til 7am or whenever I tried to go check on the boys only to realize he was in there. Oops.
He's doing better, or was anyway. Got him a little sink bath and washed his hair today. Pissed as shit though that the ER's like "call first thing Saturday morning to set up that appointment; don't forget!" and we do and they're not open. Because it's a weekend. The recording says to use the MyChart thing, so we try, but NOPE. It says to call the office. *headdesk*
So pray tomorrow morning's call goes better.
Tomorrow, btw, is the anniversary of Dad's death.
yay.